Ending a relationship is always hard, regardless of whether you or your partner was the initiator of a breakup. We suffer a lot, especially when you’ve ended relationship that lasted for more than a year. Few people manage getting over a painful breakup with dignity and complete self-control. Mainly we tend to surrender to depression and hide in the shell where we pity ourselves.
We neglect taking care about ourselves. We don’t want to move on. Sometimes we try to reunite with our partner, which is the main sign of not wanting to move on. And if you’re holding on to something which is gone, you are unlikely to ever be happy. Check out the tips on how to relieve a painful breakup.
Keep Distance From Your Partner
While you may have decided that you are going to stay friends after the breakup, it doesn’t mean that your ex-partner must be hanging around all the time. Both of you must be honest with each other. If you decided to breakup, it means that you have to end your relationship.
If you phone each other everyday, messaging each other all the time or see each other on a daily basis, you won’t move any further. It would hamper you and your partner. What you need is to move on. Besides, continuing communication with your partner is keeping painful memories about the past alive. Thus, you are bringing up the dead all the time.
Remember, past must be buried. So, you need to limit all the contacts with ex, except for those concerning practical aspects, like moving out and signing papers.
Let It All Out
You need to talk over what have happened. Let you pain out, otherwise it will rot inside of you and you’ll start rotting with it too. So, you need to talk about your breakup. But forget about talking about it with your ex. It will resurrect the pain and create bad blood between you.
You can always count on your friends and family. Spend sometime with them and talk about your pain. Soon you will begin feeling less pain. But, keep in mind that you need to get over it, because quite often we stuck in the self-pity. As a result, the ghost of your past relationship haunts you, which prevents you from building new relationships.
If you feel that your friends or family had enough or if you don’t feel like discussing your breakup with them, write then. Yep, buy a notebook and write down all the feelings you have and all the thoughts about your breakup. It is a dialogue between you and yourself. Writing is better than just thinking, as you can always check out how you came to the conclusions you’ve made.
Resist The Temptation of Rapid Changes
What the first thing most of us do after the breakup? We try to terminate anything that reminds us of our past relationships. Of course the easiest way is to throw out all the things that reminds you of your ex. But it’s not the best way. Although, temptation is high, resist it. You need to move, thus you need to learn to live with your past. You can’t move on if you just terminate it. You need to be able not to notice it.